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The skinny on my wedding…

July 24, 2009 by heidi 19 Comments

wedding dress by Sarah Seven

I’m incapable of writing about every bitty detail of my September 12 wedding. I do however love pictures and I wanted you guys to know that despite my bridal aloofness, I did not boycott all frivolities. I embraced many of them with an open and girlie heart. I love throwing a party!

So for those of you who have asked me to share wedding details and the wedding bridal veil, here’s a picture play-by-play.

(FYI: I’m not wearing this lovely Sarah Seven dress, but I do think her designs are wonderful. Visit Sarah’s website. She lives in Portland, Ore., where I imagine her life is endlessly hip.)

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Today I was inspired to add blue to my wedding. (See above collage by Blissful Mama.) It wasn’t until I walked past my bathroom and saw Joe’s orange towel draped over the shower curtain that I realized why my brain has been swimming with turquoise, brown and orange. I see it as a homage to Florida and New York, though I haven’t settled on it yet. Who knows, by tomorrow I might think it’s awful.

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 My mother thinks I’m nuts, but you can see now where the color combo came from.

I’m in the middle of making personalized birds nests. While these will function as placeholders and favors, they are not the only wedding favor. Joe blew my cover on the nests last week when he announced on his Facebook status that he was, “sitting on the couch working when the UPS man arrived with a box of 120 bird’s nests. You never know what the day will bring.”

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Because of my recent infatuation with color, I can’t decide if I want turquoise heels …

Or orange heels …
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The bridesmaid dresses are truffle. Not mocha. Not chocolate. Not amaretto. Not coffee. Truffle. And they’re all different styles of short. I let the girls choose.

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And if we do end up going with a splash of turquoise, I think I’ll get them these earrings.

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The tux situation is Joe’s domain. But I can’t decide if we should do this turquoise & orange thing. Should the ties be orange? Turquoise? I need your help, Meg, Tabitha, any other woman who has ever offered to give wedding advice. I’m finally at a point where I can discuss this stuff. I need someone to tell me if I’m making a ghastly mistake by combining orange, brown and turquoise.

Am I brilliant? Or on crack? Give me your opinion. Dudes, you too. I need feedback. I’m about to make a life-altering decision.

tie-194609-400x400As far as floral ambiance goes, Mothership is wrapping potted mums in burlap sacks and scattering them around the lodge.

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And I’m hanging a photo clothesline at the bar. Remember: I’m nuts about clotheslines. I think I’ll get orange clothespins. Or brown clothespins. Or maybe orange and brown. Arrgghh. What’s wrong with me?

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Oh! The wedding is at a ski lodge …

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In Ellicottville, NY.

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The ceremony is on a hill, atop which our guests will arrive via chair lift.

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When my Nana heard we were firing up the chair lift, she told my mom, “I’m not running and jumping on that thing. I’ll fall flat on my ass.”
Old Typewriter

Speaking of Nana, she gave me her old typewriter! Her father gave it to her when she graduated from high school, which makes it, what 25 years old? (I did that to humor you, Nanie.) It’s a 1948 Smith Corona in its original carrying case. All it needed was a new ribbon. We’re using it in lieu of a guestbook. I can’t take credit for the idea though. It was something Ro saw on this Do-It-Yourself Wedding blog. Check it out. The couple’s wedding was gorgeous. I LOVE THE BRIDE’S SHOES.

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So onto the cake. This one is my idea. Joe and I love ice cream. We’re obsessed with it. If we ain’t eating ice cream at night, we’re eating chocolate cake. Actually, as I’m typing this I’m eating chocolate cake. I had originally pictured a fancy tiered cake with fall-like flourishes and all that foof, but after calling around for prices Joe and I decided to go with Dairy Queen ice cream cakes. My mom is baking us something small and special for “cutting photo op purposes.” We couldn’t be more pleased with this decision. To make matters even better, our caterer offered to waive her asinine $150 cake-cutting fee.

newspaper-1We have lofty ambitions for our wedding programs. Since we both write for newspapers, we want to design and print newspaper-esque wedding programs. Earlier this week, we emailed writing assignments to the people closest to us. We’re planning a killer issue. Cross your fingers, folks. This one is an undertaking. If you’re one of the chosen few we emailed assignments to and you’re reading this, we are truly grateful for your participation.

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Oh, and Cubbie is the ring bearer! And yes he’s wearing a tux and a top hat.

Filed Under: birds, ice cream, Joe, love, lovey doveyness, mannequins, mom, Nana, oregon, pugs, Uncategorized, wedding pomp, Western NY

Comments

  1. Misty Fallon says

    July 25, 2009 at 8:07 am

    Heidi,
    Wow, your wedding details sound incredible! You have so many awesomely unique ideas!
    In response to your choices for color…I actually think they sound good. Alot of people never seem to realize that if you are using more then 3 colors, that doesn’t mean that everything has to have ALL three colors on it. I mean, some things can have orange and brown, some can have orange and turquoise, some can have turquoise and brown…
    Anyway I think the bridesmaid dresses sound great and that the splash of color with the earrings would look perfect. As far as the tuxes, so as to have only a “slight” color splash like your girls, perhaps the guys could just all wear the regular black tuxes with the orange necktie and no vest. Or possibly, they could all get the tuxes/shirts with the mandarin collar (basically, no collar) and see if they have the buttons in orange. (just in case in you’re unfamiliar, I put a pic of those type collars on my facebook photos.)

    Anyway, I guess I’ve chewed your ear (or eyes?) enough now, so I’ll just leave you with this…Everything sounds perfect. And (caution: cliche coming) regardless of other people’s thoughts, as long as you’re happy with your choices, that’s all that matters. Good Luck and Congratulations! I’m so happy for you!
    Always, Misty

  2. Ro says

    July 25, 2009 at 8:19 am

    Hi Lovey,
    The colors are perfect as as everything else we have covered in your notebook. I cannot wait to see you as a bride 🙂 My heart spills over with love for you and my eyes water as soon as I think of it!

  3. ZenMom says

    July 25, 2009 at 9:28 am

    This all sounds awesome. I like your color combo! And all of your original ideas – especially the newspaper-program. 🙂

  4. Ro says

    July 25, 2009 at 11:06 am

    PS-I’m so excited for the icecream cake!

  5. Carrie says

    July 25, 2009 at 12:35 pm

    I am beyond excited for this wedding! 🙂
    and even more excited for the practicality of everything – it sounds like it will be a comfortable yet gorgeous wedding!!!

    you know my number, if I can help with ANYTHING!!!

    p.s. i agree with ro – DQ ice cream cake ROCKS!

  6. Jill says

    July 25, 2009 at 2:14 pm

    I am LOVING your program idea.
    So September 12th in New York…I’m guessing the leaves will be turning pretty fall colors b then?
    I think if done right the colors could go very nicely together. But I have about 0 fashion sense so I’m probably the last person that should be giving you my opinion.
    It’s gonna be great. I can’t wait to see pictures of the real thing!

  7. Lauren Z says

    July 25, 2009 at 3:12 pm

    I can’t even begin to tell you how jazzed I am for this wedding!! The color combo, the typewriter, the DQ cakes, the newspaper programs, and most importantly, seeing you in the FLESH… all very exciting. You asked for advice so I am going to give it…

    I am loving the orange accent on the men-folk but hopefully not pumpkin orange – I fear Joe and his groomsmen might look like they are attending a Halloween themed wedding. 🙂

    Everything sounds wonderful, I am so very excited to take part in your big day! MUCH LOVE!!

  8. heidi says

    July 26, 2009 at 6:22 am

    Misty’s advice got me thinking. I’m adding only teeny bits of turquoise here and there. (The girls earrings, the robin’s eggs…) Not everything needs to rock that color palette. I got my shoes yesterday. They’re AWESOME and orange. I’m sticking to orange ties for the guys too. And not pumpkin orange either, LZ. A soft sort of burnt orange.

    Speaking of LZ. You commented! I love it! When I saw your name up here I thought, dost mine eyes deceive me? I’m sitting at my kitchen table surrounded by pens and paper, and a letter to you I started days ago. I’m finishing it today.

    Oh & Jill – the colors will be just starting to turn around then and the weather will be cool. I can’t wait to get out of this Florida swamp for a few weeks.

    I can’t wait to tell you guys about the honeymoon.

    PS. Welcome to Lance, ZenMom. Based on what I read over at your Lance, I take it you’re a reporter. I must know more. 🙂

  9. heidi says

    July 26, 2009 at 6:26 am

    RoMarie: My eyes well up too when I think of you as a bride! Your engagement photos look beautiful. I’m 100 percent certain I will cry at your wedding. Only other wedding I cried at? Sam and Beth’s.

  10. heidi says

    July 26, 2009 at 7:46 am

    One more thing, before I forget to give props where props are due. The wedding program was loosely inspired by my friend Kat, who is also a newspaper gal. Two years ago, when she married Adam, her college sweetheart, she designed their wedding program in a similar fashion. Kat is an amazing writer and a new blogger. Check out her site. She’s a good friend of Lance. Because it’s there

    If that link doesn’t work, here’s the url: http://wander-on.blogspot.com

  11. Stephanie says

    July 26, 2009 at 8:39 am

    First of all, Heidi, I’m even more upset we can’t come to the wedding now that I know there will be ICE CREAM cake! 🙂 I think all your plans sound perfect! I believe Emily and Julian had the newspaper program at their wedding too, ask her about it, it was adorable. Let me know if I can help with anything!

  12. Angel says

    August 4, 2009 at 12:45 pm

    Love the color ideas! I think the orange and brown with turquoise accents is awesome; it has a crisp modern zing to it. Sept 12th is a good day (same day for me but in 2010!) I am similar to you in that once I started on wedding planning I realized that I might um, actually *have* girlie opinions. EEEK! I saw the typewrite idea somewhere too, and think that sounds just perfect for you. Enough babbling! Congrats and have an amazing time! Remember to stop and take it all in from time to time because it goes by in a flash.

    Angel

  13. Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com says

    August 11, 2009 at 1:50 pm

    I can’t wait to see pictures from the wedding =) I love that you’re including so much color and so many personalized tidbits, like the newspaper wedding program. Ours was as do-not-rock-the-boat traditional simple as possible, and even though I loved it, sometimes I wish we’d ventured off the beaten path a bit.

  14. Tabitha (From Single to Married) says

    August 12, 2009 at 12:31 pm

    I don’t know which thing to mention first so I’ll start with the shoes: love the turquoise heels!! They’re fabulous. And the earrings for the bridesmaids (if you decide to go with them of course) are beautiful. What a great idea with the cake too – very smart because you’re right, wedding cakes cost way too much for something that lasts all of five minutes. I’m so excited for you and everything is going to come together beautifully, I just know it!

  15. Misty Fallon says

    August 13, 2009 at 7:24 pm

    Hi Heidi, I was just thinking…Though I’m sure you’ve already got a plan; I remember from your Lance that you mentioned having birds nests as a wedding favor…well, maybe you could have a birdcage for your “first anniversary advice/wishing well” or card collector. I’ve seen them at weddings even without your “favor idea”, but it would really fit your motif more than the average wedding. Plus, you can often find some really unique looking ones at rummage sales and antique shops, often not for very much money.

    P.S. I love your newspaper idea for programs; very personal…I personalized our programs by including some “clips” from Hallmark cards that Jim and I had exchanged over the years…I made an album of it on my facebook page/photos, if you wanted to see ’em.

  16. heidi says

    August 20, 2009 at 9:16 pm

    The birdcage is a good idea, Misty! Tempting … But, we’re covering a box in decoupage newspapers (his newspaper and my newspaper). That reminds me. I need to do that this weekend. (Note to self: Add Modge Podge to shopping list.) As always, thank you for your clever input. It’s much appreciated. Now, go birth your baby girl. 🙂

  17. heidi says

    August 20, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    Oh, and I LOVE that you included greeting card clippings in your wedding programs. Great idea! I often think I’ll put to use all the cards I’ve saved over the years, but I can never come up with a suitable plan.

  18. Tam says

    August 25, 2009 at 1:58 pm

    Everything about you wedding selections SCREAMS Heidi !!!
    I am so sad I won’t be there to experience it all first-hand 🙁

  19. hannah says

    October 19, 2012 at 6:35 pm

    i love the picture idea

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